“Yea, I shall return with the tide.”
“Yea, I shall return with the tide.”
― Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
Hello folks, I’m back! And although I’m not sure if the tide has turned, I am committed to try to return to blogging. A big thank you to all of you who wrote to me to find out where I’ve been.
So where have I been? Well I’ve turned into a ‘busy’ mum. Whenever you read about mums they are always ‘busy’, and now I have membership in this club. Ask me what I’ve been up to lately and I cannot give you a straight answer, but sure as hell, I’ve been ‘busy’.
Top 5 reasons why I haven’t had time to blog:
1. The Flash. My time has been largely taken up with my newest, The Flash. She’s a cat napper by day and much prefers my attention than anything else, and she’s got it. (I’d forgotten just how much time babies take up when I’d made my list of all the things I was going to get done on maternity leave.)
2. Parenting in general. I don’t blog when the kids are up so that gives me between 9pm and 6am. And this is the exact same time when I prefer to sleep. Or talk to TSH. Nup, I’m kidding, sleep wins.
3. Testing the Swedish health care system. I had what I thought was the fever/chills of mastitis but turned out to be the fever/chills of a wicked kidney infection and wound up in hospital. The Flash had to be weaned asap and because I wanted to continue breastfeeding once I was off the antibiotics, I ended up with my old friend, The Pump. Enter round the clock pumping sessions in the infections ward of South Stockholm hospital. I think everyone in Stockholm has now seen my boobs. They missed me when I left. Well everything is sorted out now but the recovery time was long.
4. A holiday. We went to Malmö in the south of Sweden to visit friends. And what a friend Tina Sparkles turned out to be, when my family arrived on her doorstep, and then started spewing on everything. Yes one by one we all caught stomach flu and saw diddly squat of Malmö. More recovery time. And washing.
5. Visitors and events. My lovely mum paid a visit and luckily was here for Kidney Crisis 2012. A mother of 5, she was a whiz helping out with the newly weaned Flash and lending a hand with Bubba. We also held a christening for the Flash which was just beautiful.
So I’m a busy mum, just like everyone else. But I complain about it more. To be honest, I feel like I should have time to blog. I’ve got a pretty sweet set up here: Well behaved baby? check. Toddler in part-time daycare? Check. Cleaner? check. Husband that does more than his fair share of family/household duties? Double check. But honestly, I don’t know what happens and then all of a sudden it’s bedtime.
I need to work on my work/life balance and considering I don’t work, I should have more balance. Am I trying to keep my good housewife standards too high? When you read about ‘busy’ mums they always say that you need to ignore your messy house and to lower your expectations. Here’s a picture of our living room. I don’t think that’s my problem.
I’ve checked in with other bloggers during the last few months and can only find myself asking the question, ‘how do they do it/where do they find the time?’
- This blogger looks after her daughters, blogs and makes beds that look like this. She also washes her sheets. The only time I wash our sheets is when they can walked over to the laundry basket and put themselves in.
- This blogger has a toddler at home and is very pregnant. She found the time to look fabulous, move into a new house and renovate. She painted straight lines with a toddler around. I can’t do anything straight if my toddler is around.
- This blogger had a baby around the same time as me. She also has more kids than me. She finds the time to post. She also said she breastfeeds while writing. Well that’s a good idea, if I wrote every time I breastfed I could put Swan’s Way to shame.
Has the tide of time turned, will I be able to blog in the future? Sorry, but yes. I’m putting it on my to-do list and you are all going to cop it. Tell one, tell all, spread the word, tell the world. I respond to applause.
So now I’m going to do an old blogging trick – taking cues from other bloggers that I’ve read before – I’m going to complain about how I don’t have time to blog and then be more prolific than ever before.
Watch out, you can run but you can’t hide…
we all get busy with life and blogging falls by the wayside. i was in a blogging slump pretty much the whole summer until i came back from vacay refreshed and ready to blog again. besides, you have wee baby to take care of so everyone in the blogosphere understands.
I’m glad to hear you all understand, she is after all very cute and hard to say no too! Glad you had a nice summer!
Those other bloggers have maids and nannies. I am sure of it. Don’t worry about them. Life is crazy sometimes and we all have those weeks and months when we just can’t muster any words for our blogs. Happened to me. Only Nanowrimo has got me back in my blogging groove.
I would LOVE a maid and a nanny!
Hilarious! I think I can one up on you here…I’ve only got one baby and still can’t get anything done! How does that happen? My little one can’t even transport himself anywhere yet!!!
oooo just wait, the little one will be into everything soon enough and you’ll get even less done 🙂 but will be having heaps of fun!
haha. Well, I also go days at a time without posting. It is hard to find the balance but I think the best thing is to not put the pressure on yourself. Do what you can. when you can and feel satisfied in that. I know it is easier said then done. I struggle daily with getting it all done.
Well I’m glad to hear you struggle with it too! Good luck with #2!!
Stop comparing yourself to others! Or, anyway, compare yourself to both ends of the stick, not only to the “perfect” one.
So glad to have your news!
That’s a great idea, I should also compare myself to some slack bastard bloggers who never post and then I’ll be one up on them! I love that idea. P.S I’ve missed you!
So great to have you back. Sorry to hear about your hospital visit and am glad you are on the mend (and that your mother was there to help out at the time).
Don’t make excuses for not blogging – and no two people are the same. I often wonder how some people can do multiple posts a day (although I’m not a fan of the concept as it gives me more to read and I tend to skip over them!!!). Now that I’m not working (and don’t have kids) I have no excuse. (And yet, I’m wondering if – in any dimension of the universe – I can afford / justify a cleaner?!?).
It’s good to have you back and nice to hear your voice, but just do what you can. You have more important things on your plate (in your life!).
You are completely right. No two people are the same and I do have more important things on my plate at the moment. Multiple posts a day! get out of here…
Well, ya wrote this so that’s a great start! When I had J, I took over a year off and just came back stronger. Gotta do what you gotta do. Maybe those other moms have to blog for $$ or sponsors. Ya never know. Anyways, glad you’re recovered from the kidney thing, scary! And also all survived the stomach thIng! Hope to read more but don’t be pressured. Let it me natural. Some moms find blogging therapeutic and also do it to a avoid ppd. Anyways… 🙂
Ooo the kidney/stomach thing was not good and I’m glad its over, terrible. Glad you took a year off when J was born, precious times!
Yay! My favourite blogger is back. That’s awful about your hospitalisation but great that you’re well now. You have tough genes that’s for sure! Writing waits for no one and I know life can knock the pen from one’s hand. But when we’re gone from here, all that matters is family.
Sage words. Family is all that matters 🙂
So glad you’re back! I didn’t blog before my kids were off the boob and walking on their own so you’re doing WAY better than I am.
I’m glad to be back! she can now roll so walking should be any day now…